Have there been moments in life when you wanted something to be so perfect it actually held you back in life? Or by thinking something you did wasn't good enough, that it stopped you from pursuing your dreams or doing something else you enjoyed. If so I can relate, as I have experienced this myself and struggled with it for many year
The need for things to go & be so absolutely perfect held me back from doing and pursuing many things; I wasn't often seizing the opportunities that came my way. I kept telling myself I will publish my website when it is perfect. I will wear this dress when my body is perfect. I will share what I am doing when I have figured out what to say is perfect. I was convinced that everything had to be perfect before I proceeded to the next step, a next step that never came because it was never perfect enough. I was very hard on myself when this idea of perfection i created in my mind, was not achieved.
Luckily over the years I have realized that chasing perfection was only holding me back & keeping me from moving forward. I was putting pressure on myself, which needless to say caused unnecessary stress, that no person can endure for long without severe consequences; physically mentally and emotionally
I don't recall there being a big event or moment when the light bulb came on, when I realized how damaging chasing perfection was. For me this happened gradually; so gradually i that didn't even notice. I do believe that by experiencing a variety of healing modalities and by doing work on myself, I was able to achieve this and shift from Everything must be perfect to it is our imperfections that make us unique. Imperfections that I now love and embrace; most of the time. (My past perfectionist self still does pop in to say hello occasionally) I have realized, that is our imperfections that are our perfections.
Even though my desire for perfection had held me back from pursing many things and resulted in much stress and many tears. I am very grateful for having that experience as now I am able to help others who are struggling with the similar things. As organizer of wellness events, I have had many exhibitors express their fears to me; I can't be a part of this yet because I'm re branding & redoing my website, I'm revamping my courses or restructuring my services. And it was always because things just aren't quite perfect enough yet to share. To which I would reply, “Imperfect information, is better than no information at all.” You are the only one who will ever know that it's not perfect. So now ask yourself if it will ever be perfect enough? or if needing things to be perfect is actually holding you back from something truly amazing.
Empowering Balance
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